The last book we read/discussed for our monthly Matthew 28 peer group meeting was Deep Change: Discovering the Leader Within by Robert Quinn. It’s a good book, but one of the things that struck me was not even a major point in the book.
Quinn briefly discusses the difference between a reactive person and a proactive person. In our group discussion, we also talked about The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, which I read a number of years ago. The first habit is “Be proactive.”
One way you can tell if you’re a reactive or proactive person is the language you use. Reactive people say things like: “I wish,” “I have to,” “If I had,” “I can’t,” etc. Reactive people blame situations or others.
On the other hand, proactive people say things like: “I can,” “I choose,” “I will,” “I prefer,” etc. Proactive people take responsibility.
Now, most people aren’t purely reactive or proactive. There’s a spectrum. I want to work on becoming more proactive!
Are you reactive or proactive?